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ENGAGMENTS AND WEDDINGS
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at a country place, the breakfast may be served to many guests at small tables on the lawn. Small pieces of wedding cake are already put up in dainty ribbon-tied boxes, and each guest takes one on leaving. On the departure of the bride and groom only relatives and very intimate friends kiss her, and the shower of rice and old slippers is best omitted. It is not in the best taste, and horses have been frightened into running away by being pelted. Also, it is offensive to a lady to find her bridal baggage labelled so as to advertise the affair to strangers. Now and then, a wedding guest with a too hilarious sense of humor has found himself cut off the list of acquaintances of a newly married couple on their return home.

SENDING OUT THE WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS

In sending out wedding invitations there is no way provided for telling friends when and where the newly married pair are to be found. If no large wedding is given, the announcement cards are sent out after the ceremony, the new address and the time when the couple may be found "at home" is put in the lower left-hand corner, or their personal joint card, with this information on it, is inclosed. Or, if the residence is undecided, they may wait until they have returned and established themselves in the new home and then send cards to all friends. Socially, the bride and groom are new people, and owe neither calls nor invitations to anybody. All acquaintances owe calls to them, and dinners, receptions, luncheons and teas are showered on them for three months. They return calls, but do not have to entertain until the next season. The bride should be especially attentive to her husband’s relatives and friends.

Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control,
These three alone lead life to sovereign
power
Alfred Tennyson.