Rudeness and Civility.—I dare say I need not tell you how rude it is, to take the best place in a room, or to seize immediately upon what you like at table, without offering first to help others; as if you consider nobody but yourself. On the contrary, you should always endeavor to procure all the conveniences you can to the people you are with. Besides being civil, which is absolutely necessary, the perfection of good breeding is, to be civil with ease, and in a gentlemanlike manner. For this, you should observe the French people; who excel in it, and whose politeness seems as easy and natural as any other part of their conversation. Whereas the English are often awkward in their civilities, and, when they mean to be civil, are too much ashamed to get it out.
Mauvaise Honte.—Pray, do you remember
never to be ashamed of doing what is right; you
would have a great deal of reason to be ashamed, if
you were not civil; but what reason can you have to
be ashamed of being civil? And why not say a civil
and an obliging thing, as easily and as naturally, as
you would ask what o'clock it is? This kind of
bashfulness, which is justly called, by the French,
mauvaise honte, is the distinguishing character of
an English booby; who is frightened out of his wits
