- lous honor and virtue can alone make you esteemed
and valued by mankind; [remember] that parts and learning can alone make you admired and celebrated by them; but that the possession of lesser talents is most absolutely necessary, toward making you liked, beloved, and sought after in private life. Of these lesser talents, good breeding is the principal and most necessary one, not only as it is very important itself; but as it adds great lustre to the more solid advantages both of the heart and the mind.
Manner.—An easy manner and carriage must
be wholly free from those odd tricks, ill habits, and
awkwardnesses, which even very worthy and sensible
people have in their behavior. [May, 1741.]
Manner—Absence—Awkwardness—Attention.—However
trifling a genteel manner may
sound, it is of very great consequence towards pleasing
in private life, especially the women; which
(sic), one time or other, you will think worth pleasing;
and I have known many a man, from his awkwardness,
give people such a dislike of him at first,
that all his merit could not get the better of it afterwards.
Whereas a genteel manner prepossesses people
in your favor, bends them towards you and makes
them wish to like you. Awkwardness can proceed
but from two causes: either from not having kept
