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CHAPTER II

DEVELOPMENT OF THE LOVE-LIFE

Stages of Sexual Development—Friendship and Love—Esthetic Significance of Sex—Love the Refinement of Sexual Impulse—Altruism and Self-Sacrifice—Sex Life of the Child—Sexual Instincts Manifested from Birth—Stages of Progress—The Detumescence Instinct—The Autoerotic Stage—Sucking, an Erotic Pleasure—Erogenous (Love—producing) Zones—Narcissism—the Legend of Narcissus—Self-Love—Prepubescent Period—Love in Childhood—Childhood's Sex Interests Repressed—Sublimation—Erotic Compensation—Cultural Accomplishments—Adolescence—The Boy and Girl—Physical and Psychic Manifestations—What Impels to Love—The Parent Image—Copying Psychological Patterns—Ego and Sex Ideals—The Love Object—Fixations—Peculiarities of the Love Life—Psychic Impotence—Frigid Wives—Fetichism—Sexual Significance of Fetiches—Anti—Fetiches—Exhibitionism—Normal and Abnormal Traits—Sexual Curiosity—Sadism and Masochism— Homosexuality—Psychological Problem—Environmental Factors—Homosexual Feelings Repressed—Hermaphroditism.

Stages of Sexual Development. The love-life is a most complex phase of our being, physically and mentally, and its influence and ramifications affect, for good or ill, the entire personality. If one has successfully passed through the sequence of stages of sexual development, and upon maturity finds the harmonious adjustment that can only be obtained normally by a felicitous mating, the individual then possesses an invaluable asset to health and happiness.

The gulf that separates the individual so fortunately situated, from those who experience a wide variety of maladjustments of personality and far-reaching neurotic disorders, is often due entirely to the warping, or frustration, of the sexual nature.

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