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and make this an unwritten law by showing respect and consideration for his.

Never permit him to gossip over the affairs of his family with you. Their secrets are not yours, and you have no right to know them. If something is forced upon you, make up your mind to think the best of it. This is something you will never regret. Don't let your sweetheart, because you have told him you love him, neglect any of the little courtesies about which you were so careful before he had gotten this confession of your love. Set nothing down to lack of thought, but giving proper thought to all small politenesses yourself, exact the same from him. Never let that meanest of all things, jealousy, enter your heart. If the man is worth your love, if you have promised to trust and believe in him, you are wronging him when you permit suspicion to come to you, and it will injure you in every way. If, before you told him your love, you had not thought out whether the love he offered you was a good and true one, then it is possible you deserve to suffer from your carelessness, but if you believe in your sweetheart you are insulting him when you let yourself become a prey to jealousy. Politeness is one of the cardinal virtues, and its great value is never so much appreciated as when every one of its laws observed between people who care