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manages to keep his feet out of the snare. If he is invited out he has an engagement; he has little desire to be done good. At the present time with us the tendency is to crowd about the campus; the more congested things are the better the ordinary student likes it. If he lives east of the campus during his freshman year where life is quiet and regular, by the time he has become an upperclassman he has moved to the west side where all the men's organizations are located and where there is something doing. Yet with all this tendency there are still some fellows who prefer the isolation which may be found beyond the towns, and of their own initiative seek out those places which are far removed from the crowd.

The selfish, headstrong man often does not join when he is asked, and I did not mean to suggest that either of the two sorts I have previously mentioned are to be counted in this class. One has to yield his own desires if he gets on comfortably in any partnership or organization, even in marriage or the grain business. Brotherhood even of the most unsentimental character is a matter of daily if not of hourly concessions and consideration of the profit or the comfort of others. If one is incapable of such sacrifice and of the real happiness and satisfaction which results from it, he ordinarily is wise enough to go his own way, and