THE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE
you can sit together indefinitely and be happy without conversation?
Are you conscious of any thrill when you touch hands? Is the other person's handclasp always a source of pleasure?
Do you feel an interior congeniality when you come face to face? Of course you have sex-consciousness and if you are given to petting you may find a thrill from sex, but you might find the same thrill from numberless others.
As you think of the other one would you be willing to have him as the parent of your children.
When you are together do you fall into misunderstandings because of different points of view?
Do you object to certain ways the other one has with members of the other sex? If you are jealous, why are you jealous? In a reasonable way or an unreasonable one? There is a jealousy which is a matter of self-respect, because of actual unwise or untrue conduct on the part of your sweetheart. And there is a jealousy which is unreasonable. And there is a jealousy which is a sign of love. Which kind is yours?
Taking up the question again, How can we know when we are in love enough to get married, I would say, When you feel that you cannot live without the beloved. And yet many a man or woman has
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