THE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE
that women do not have the liberty that belongs to men. Because of the high ideals men have concerning women, indiscretions so-called seem to injure her far more than they do a man.
If a woman's indiscretions have been of such a character that they will affect the man's career if they come to public notice, should he not be told, so that he may take the responsibility upon himself if he marries her? If he knows of her past, and accepts it, her worry is gone.
If she feels that he would spurn her if she told him, he also ought to know; for there would be otherwise a great hidden danger hovering over her ready to destroy her happiness. It is a modern instance of the word of Damocles, and such threatened dangers are unnerving. Every shadow would frighten her.
But there are many indiscretions in a girl's life which are not as terrible as they seem to the girl. They are not genuine indiscretions. They do not affect her except as to conscience.
It is not necessary to tell a man everything in your past life unless it is serious enough to affect him before the world if publicly known or if known only to him to kill your relationship.
There ought to be perfect confidence between husband and wife. If you can forgive him, he ought
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