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GOOD Manners is the art of making those people easy with whom we converse.
Whoever makes the fewest persons uneasy is the best bred in the company.
As the best law is founded upon reason, so are the best manners. And as some lawyers have introduced unreasonable things into common law, so likewise many teachers have introduced absurd things into common good manners.
One principal point of this art is, to suit our behaviour to the three several degrees of men; our superiours, our equals, and those below us.
For instance, to press either of the two former to eat or drink, is a breach of manners; but a tradesman or a farmer must be thus treated, or else it will be difficult to persuade them that they are welcome.
- ↑ Which lord Chesterfield thus defines, "the respect of much good sense, some good nature, and a little self-denial for the sake of others, and with a view to obtain the same indulgence from them." See Letter clxviii, the whole of which is professedly on this subject.
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